Rediscovering life and manhood after prostate cancer
I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of 2019 and feared losing my manhood and my life. I was lucky to have my prostate surgically removed before the cancer spread more widely. The most minimal roadmap for recovery was provided. I want to expand the roadmap and the conversation about recovering life and manhood after prostate cancer.
Here, in the blog you can read a variety of survivor’s stories and those of their partners. There are lots of useful resources for your own journey, including videos and my new book. And this is not a substitute for professional medical advice.
The roots of the blog below lie in the step by step sharing of my story as it unfolded over the last five years, together with others who have different experiences right up to the present day. My aim is to mark some points on the rather uncharted landscape, so you can build your own roadmap.
It includes direct and personal accounts of our body, head, heart and soul and partner journeys as well as the inner and outer resources that helped us along the way. Grateful thanks to my wife and an increasing number of other cancer survivors and their partners for sharing stories on these pages. They also helped inspire and inform the book featured on this page.
The goals: rebuild health, expand identities, make the most of what we have.
Before and after my surgery: short videos
Get the lowdown in minutes: click above for short, revealing videos before and after prostate cancer treatment
Journeys of recovery from – and adaptation to – prostate cancer
Below are the thumbnails of the most recent posts – click on each for the full story. For chronological order, please visit diagnosis, treatment and recovery pages. More here every week. I invite you to subscribe (see above and sidebar on the right/below) so you don’t miss a thing.
Exploring ways to maintain libido on ADT
Loss of libido is one of the many distressing effects of Androgen Deprivation Treatment (ADT) commonly experienced by men with advanced or recurring prostate cancer - and of course also affecting their partners. The experience has been described as "watching [...]
Sexual satisfaction after prostate cancer: new UK study shifts focus
"Research on sexual outcomes in prostate cancer survivors has focused on the restoration of erections after treatment," notes a brand new peer-reviewed article by William Kinnaird and others. "The aim should be to support patients and their partners in creating a [...]
Day 1844: Experience with Levitra (Vardenafil)
My experience with Levitra (vardenafil) has been slightly more positive than with Cialis (tadalafil) or Viagra (sildenafil). It definitely helps the quality of my erections. The side effects are slightly more bearable than with the alternative drugs. Perhaps this is due [...]
Five years on: Prostate surgery saved my life from cancer
28 February 2025: It's five years since my robotic assisted radical prostatectomy in 2020. In this video I look back with gratitude at the surgery that saved my life. I give thanks for the network of love and support that has [...]
Why I wrote a book about erectile differences
I feel like my erectile differences and those of millions of other men and our partners have been buried behind a wall of shame and effective silence. If mentioned at all, the term used for our condition is "erectile dysfunction." [...]
Male multiple orgasms, an unexpected gift after prostatectomy
By Michael Ward Since my radical prostatectomy at the age of 67, I have been lucky enough to develop the capacity for multiple orgasms - two to five in quick succession. I have found the experience far more intense and almost [...]
Finding the erotic in male softness
It's time to accept erectile difference and celebrate what's erotic about soft male genitalia. About half of all men over 50, and most men treated for prostate cancer, experience some form of erectile dysfunction (ED). But for millions of affected men [...]
Day 1715: How reverse Kegels help with penile rehab
Today I am celebrating the gift of subtler forms of pelvic floor recovery after prostate cancer, including the aptly named "Reverse Kegels." Toronto's only male pelvic floor specialist physiotherapist has opened me up to new dimensions of pelvic floor health, more [...]
Subtler stages of recovering sexual function after prostate surgery
July 18, 2024: Over 50% of the nearly three thousand men in the 2022 EUPROMS study reported sexual function to be a big or moderate problem. I think the main part of my erectile nerve recovery is nearly complete 4 and [...]
Partner story 4: Senior sex can be fun
By Colleen Dawson We're finding that senior sex can be fun, provided we are flexible about outcomes. As we explore the different situation after my husband's prostate surgery, we are also aging into our late 60s and early 70s. But as [...]
Doctors not communicating prostate cancer treatment side effects
The debilitating side effects of prostate cancer treatment must be one of the world's worst kept secrets. But physicians still struggle to communicate this clearly to their patients when they are making treatment decisions. This is according to a journal article [...]
4 years since radical prostatectomy
The long term outcomes since my radical prostatectomy are very good, particularly from the point of view that my cancer is still undetectable on my regular checkups. In my quality of life there have been clear losses and gains. To get [...]
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